The parallel here with your F and these two wayward husband's is just overhwelming... lots of lessons learned here..

And yes, I KNOW its hard, I KNOW how painful this will be for your father, but guess what... that walk of pain is the SAME WALK your H has to walk

And mb28's H for that matter...

All THREE of these men have some work to do.. some painful work, but worthwhile work.