This is his motto so its hard for my dad to even sympathize or show anything towards my husband right now other than hurt, anger, and disappointment.
Interestingly enough, these are the same feelings your H AND mb28's husband is feeling...
Your father can let his feelings consume him much like your H and mb28's husband is doing ... OR... Your father can own his respponsabilities to his daughter and do what she NEEDS him to do.