Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Hi Saint! Well WH is Wayward Husband, BW is betrayed wife and OP is other person. I just refuse to not refer to my H as H until he becomes a former- then he will be a FWH and then eventually he will be a H again lol! (IF we R)

Well you see my sig for a recap but some other important tidbits include that he works with OW (although she is now in a different work group so they see each other way less but still see each other at work).

He was renting an apartment last I asked but Ihaven't asked in awhile, However, he is staying at her place!

His mail comes here still.

90% of his stuff is here. I have taken down our wedding photos and asked him to give me his ring and put it with my ring in a safe place.

I have gone from seeing him every time he comes over (6 days per week) to filling my time so that I see him mostly just on his day off from work. I was cooking for him and now have the leftovers in the fridge if he is interested.

I never ever ever ask about our R and never ever cry in front of him (not since 10/14/09).

He has made random comments about the future that refer to sharing custody of S but then makes random comments about how we will need to work on the yard, repair the house. He often refers to shared history between us (in a positive way- like "we went to the coast during that storm, remember?" "we loved going there for breakfast" etc.)

And I think I have gone from analyzing every tiny thing from facial expressions to tones of voice, to the time of day he sends his text asking about S...and am now noticing "bigger" things like acts of service, whether or not he lingers, how he took the day off on my birthday, and the number of text messages he sends. I JUST DOUBT THAT THE WH CHOOSES TO RECONCILE WITHOUT ANY WARNING! I think I will see some changes in his behavior and get 2x4s from friends on here for "mind reading" or "worrying too much about him" but how will I know if I don't observe these things? LOL