Pearlharbr- I do struggle with playing the 'fix it' role. I will not pursue the MC until he initiates. I wasn't comfortable about initiating it...hence my message here. Thanks for "talking" me out of it.
did your spouse suffer withdrawal from EA/PA? My H affair is not dying a natural death...he had to make a choice and he decided to end it...but it is still an addictive relationship...and he works with her each day. To me...it seems cut and dry..You made a decision..stick to it. The OW and his R with her is an A to nowhere. He is well aware of this..but still the back and forth...it leaves my head spinning..and it makes it impossible to begin gaining any kind of trust..when he cannot even trust himself.
