DBing has helped to stall the D at the minimum. I also have increased my hobbies, gained control over my emotions, and am starting to feel good about myself again.
Stopping the A is NOT something I can do. There are no guarantees. It needs to be his call. I agree that I could "close the bakery." Well, all that is left is me around the house on his day off when he visits. I could tell him that he can take S with him on those days. I'll think about it...
that is really good! starting to feel good about yourself is the most important part of the equation. If we do not love ourselves, how can we love others, and how can they love us? it won't happen.
and stopping the A....you never want to force them to stop the A. you want that to be THEIR decision. And because you have been DBing, and it has stalled the D, that is because he doesn't know what he wants and he is confused, and that what YOU want. you want him to be confused as heck.
anyways, I can see that I will not have time to read the thread or follow too closely, so I hope that I can give you good advice.
btw, may I ask what WH and BW is? what is the W and B for. thanks!
Me 33 H 34 S9 S3 M 6 yrs (2gether 11 yrs) EA/PA 1/2006 DB 5/2006 H wants D 6/2006 H wants ME 8/2006 H "said" PA/EA over 8/2006 H erased OW off phone! 2/2007
"It is far better 2 choose humility & change oneself, than 2 wait in vain trying 2 chang someone else."
