I agree, numbers don't lie, the amount of affairs are incredible. I often think that maybe my w had picked someone else out, then she could get started dreaming about how great it will be when she could do everything right (D first) then go after her prey. That way the fantasy could get started without any PA. An emotional affair without contact if you will.
Believe me, I am on the side of the big guns here, and get frustrated as anyone that those that come here do not heed their advice, or do so waaaay too late.
