Fast track to her divorcing me

[happywithchange]

I have to explain myself to those people who say I have looked everywhere. No, you haven't. Well maybe you have but most likely you have not. I had unfettered access to most of my wife's stuff. I "used to" know all her passwords (she changed them after I confirmed we will divorce) and monitored everything. The only thing I didn't know, was that you could hide apps on a blackberry (because I dont have one). She was using blackberry messenger. No record of anything that goes on there. I caught her hiding her phone once when I entered her office but only saw 4 contacts there and 3 of the 4 were women the other was her 2nd cousin. Anyway I thought hmm maybe I over reacted. I did note that the app had disappeared after that day. IT wasn't until I busted her dildo handed that I saw that there were hidden apps and that the person she was sexting with was in fact her 2nd cousin. So believe me when I say that anything is possible. I tried to say to people warning me the same things as you guys. That I had covered all my bases, that my wife is always around and hasn't had time. I mean who thinks their wife is going to screw a relative (although I have to say 2nd cousin's are legal to marry).

But others warned me and I didn't give up. It seems like there are some people here who come into the thread and say AFFAIR instantly. What I have found is a lot more often that not the other person finds 20 excuses to say no not my wife for this or that reason. And then a month later BAM. Affair exposed. To me the likelihood of their being another person is much higher than the likelihood of WAS just simply wanting out. I like this analogy, "do you quit your job without having another one lined up?" My wife simply wasn't in the position to go to this other man, and she wasn't ready to go out on her own yet emotionally or financially. But I spoiled her plans. Now she is baffled and confused and doesn't know what to do. But there is no choice now. I will see this divorce to the end. Because thanks to this forum I have been setting myself up to move on with or without her for 3 months.

And always remember this, it's easier to lie than it is to tell the truth.