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My 11 year old is going through this stuff now and it is not a fun rollercoaster for her. Michele's daughter is working through a lot of stuff. Her Dad isn't there, you are, she likes you but what if you leave too??? She is afraid to get attached and have her world crumble down again.

Talk to her and acknowledge what she is feeling. These fears are very real to her. Let her know that she can come and talk to you anytime if you are comfortable with that. this isn't just a phase in regards to these fears.


Yep..got all that..We all sat at the table last night...after Mom/18 yr. old/16 yr.old got through raking the 12 year old over the coals for pretty much tossing me under the bus.. grin and i told them all that i loved them like I loved my son and daughter..that even though they are not biologically mine that I still consider them my daughters because i feel like they are..I also let them know that I was not going anywhere as long as their mother would have me and that i would never leave them...I also let them all know that I wanted to see them succeed no matter what they chose to do...I told them I would be their biggest cheerleader, their biggest fan..i would be there to listen when they needed me to listen..and carry them a bit if they needed me too..but they had responsibilites they needed to meet...I told them that i was not going to be any different around them no matter what was said..

In the end..she told me she was sorry..and I told her it was alright..I do expect this same thing to pop up when she feels she needs to have an excuse though..