Yesterday while I was removing wallpaper, a song came on the radio that triggered a good cry and the feeling that I don't think I will ever love another as much as I love my H. I just can't imagine life with anyone else! Then, I told myself to stop it! Why worry about that now? Who knows what the future will bring!
Hey, crying's not a bad thing; someone once told me years ago that tears were the very fountain of life; and that every tear you cry; God holds in His Hand.
It's when you're constantly crying; never stopping that, something is seriously wrong.
For now, it is perfectly normal to grieve, and crying helps to cleanse the soul and clear the mind.
There is ALWAYS hope until things go to the point of no return, you two are not divorced, and he hasn't remarried....and that time has NOT happened, so it is good to hope.
You seem to be a pretty strong lady; CW; and strength is something no one can have enough of. Every time I thought I had run out of it, somehow I had MORE to run with, and kept going.
Optimism is also a good thing to have; knowing that for each hill you climb, each mountain you scale; there's something better on the other side.
There's always a light at the end of a tunnel, but it's not ALWAYS a runaway train; that's where optimism comes in.
It seems we always prepare for the worst, but things are not always as bad as they seem. Our minds have a tendency to blow things up into something worse than it is.
But, when things look bad, we're scared, and that fear will transform things into something bigger than it really is.
I'm with OP..if you don't take care of yourself, NO ONE will do that for you. I believe I would get a second opinion if you think you're well into the change; what with the chemo/meds you're on.
Yup, I WAS young to be going through, and BOTH stages at that. From what I'd read, the emotional transition/crisis was supposed to happen around the age that it happened for me,(35-39) then the SECOND stage, which is the actual physical menopause was supposed to happen between 48 and 53. For males, I think Andropause could happen between 45 and 55..I'm not exactly sure on that, would have to research back into it to see. But, it didn't happen that way for either one of us....I got BOTH back to back, and for some reason, my husband did the SAME thing. A male, during Andropause, due to low testosterone levels, will experience "hot flashes" "night sweats" and "mood swings" just like a female does. When he started doing that, it took me TWO weeks to figure it out, talk about DUMB!! I'd never thought about men experiencing the same symptoms as women! I went to the GNC, told them what was happening and got him some stuff to help;(can't remember what it was other than a herb called "Saw Palmetto" telling him it was for his health; never told him what it was REALLY for. He may have figured it out later on, but he's still taking a combination of herbs for his male health. I watched him for a good while after getting that for him, made sure he took it religiously, and it DID make a difference. The physical symptoms stopped, and I noticed he was looking better; although still didn't feel really good.
For me, I got a natural herb my sister in law suggested called "Phyto-estrogen"; it took the edge off, helping me to cope, but I couldn't get rid of it completely until it ran its course.
Do not have a clue what it means for us both having gone through both stages back to back, if it means anything. My husband always teases me about looking too deep within things; never mind the fact that very talent I have has drug him out of quite a few jams over the years, saved us alot of money, and answered a great many questions. LOL!!
I have really enjoyed my travels over the years, and enjoy my job very much.
When I was training, I thought I'd NEVER get it, but I did. The very size of the vehicle intimidated me, although I'd gone with my husband off and on over the years.
It doesn't anymore..what scares me out here is the four-wheelers who play games with truckers; or are distracted..and I've seen some weird things over the years...some of it is pretty graphic. LOL!!
Remember, as each person is different, every MLC/Transition is different..what works for one may not work for another. Most of the time it is trial and error for ALL involved.
