Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

Thanks Cbug but how do I claim a trigger as my own? Seriously- like the songs he listened to that I know were from her, the type of wine that he suddenly liked to drink, the shirts he bought while with her...

I have been down this road with him last January! I asked him to delete songs from his i-pod (found them saved under a different folder later- [censored]!), throw away this DVD she bought him, threw away scarves she knitted for both of us, obviously eliminate her from his phone and email, stop getting Starbuscks peppermint mochas for awhile (hey there was a reason for that!)

and I must say it felt really good to not have those reminders around! but alas, it was all for naught! I did have a hefty list of other things on there and was surprised when he crossed everything off within a few days. I just wasn't good at spying on his phone activity...