Next, on the 12 yr old girl issue. Part of that is normal 12 year old girl hormones. Girls at that age are a powder keg of emotion and can't make up their mind to save themselves. However, the abandonment issues could lead to a major problem later. Does Michele have her in counseling? If not, why not? How often do you include her in your plans with her mom? If you find that your plans exclude her more than they include her, change it. That doesn't mean she needs to be along for every outing, but the priority here is to create a happy, secure home for her and that means being included and having her opinions heard. Other than that, I have no idea what else can be done without outside help.
Ok...Michele and I have talked about the 12 year old..we do think that alot of this is "hormonal" as a matter of fact we both would like to see her start.. I think she uses the abandonment issues as a crutch...she is not in counseling though Michele did tell her last night that she would be going..and the 12 year olds reply was that, "she did not have to tell them her personal problems" and our reply(Michele and I both) was that " you may choose not to talk to the counselor but you also won't be talking on the cell, on the computer, no basketball, no softball either"...and as far as what they are included in..."everything"...our kids are our lives..and that is fine..wer both wonder if we give them too much..
Michele-ex thing...I got that..and believe me..I never talk about Kim ever..good or bad..
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If she doesn't then she's a bigger dumba$$ than I thought!
