She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

cautious, those were all great things you had to say. I guess i never really looked at it that way, about trying to fix things. I just know shes overwhelmed, and i thought she could use some help. I told her that the people I work with are willing to help if she wants it. I never told her that they had to help her, i just gave here their number and told her to call if she wanted the help. She eventually came around and said she would probably get their help this weekend.

It's really tough dealing with all this from Afghanistan, it's tough enough as it is. i feel helpless not being home and able to work on this. Unfortunately, I get frustrated with happy people right now. I haven't been able to be happy in months dealing with this.

I'm trying really hard, and i never get angry back at her. I'm trying to keep the peace while I'm away, and i want her to see that I'm not getting angry at everything. To be honest, I'm so drained from this I don't have the energy to get angry at her. it's almost like I'm being somewhat of a doormat, but in the past i would always get defensive, so in a sense this is a 180 for me.

i had asked earlier if I should consider this time away somewhat of a separation? i guess I'm trying to gauge the timing of things to see when i should try this or that, if I should consider when I get home the beginning of the separation? It seems logical to count this time apart, but I could be wrong.