One other thing I thought of. I am not allowing H to use me or the house as a place to stay. It is either forever or never. Also if he chooses not to come home, the house isn't going to be a storage area for his junk either. I already have people lined up to help me this weekend if he chooses not to come home to help me pack everything so H can pick it up the same day he moves and be done with it. He says to just give it to charity, but that is his decision so it will all go to his parents and from there it is up to him.
I know his mom will be so excited to have all her grown boys home this summer. Truly shows how messed up the family is when all three of her boys (27, 25, 21) will still be living at home (the 21 year old still is in college so understandable), but she never wanted to let go of them so she gets what she deserves.
I know I seem to be jumping the gun, but I am pretty sure it is going to end up in D. Plan for the worst...if the best happens it will be an added surprise.
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