Should I try calling or texting her more and re-build our friendship?
No, b/c of a couple of reasons. First, it is too soon and it would be pursuing. It would backfire. Seondly, it won't work for you to try to steal her from OM b/c she doesn't see you like that. My advice is to stay as dark as possible as long as OM is in the picture.
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DO YOU THINK SHE WOULD JUST LIKE TO REBUILD OUR FRIENDSHIP FOR FRIENDSHIP'S SAKE.
And be able to play "hostess" at all the family events? I'm sure she would love it. Is that what you want, to just be good friends? That is what the majority of WAW's would like to do.....be friends with their LBH and keep OM.
I'm glad she behaved herself at the party, but please, PLEASE, do not read anything into her actions other than she might have been putting on a front for others.....and she was probably cake eating.
She lost the right to call you "babe" and to give you those non-sexual touches. She has given you the ultimate disrespect and it is not right for her to come in and act as if she is still the "Mrs." in the home and take on that role at the BD party (and that is what she did). From this point on....she needs to have a separate party (if she wants to attend one) b/c she should not be allowed to attend family events when she is living in an open adulterous affair. Why allow her to have both worlds?
I always get amazed at how little it takes to make the LBH start almost gushing over his W again, but I suppose it's b/c he still loves her. Just keep focused.
I loved the way you handled the TM's from OW! That was perfect.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
