Suppose your H calls you again to give you another spew like that...
What do you think would be the effect if you told him
"Gotta go take care of our kids, they keep me busy"
or something to that effect, and you just let him DROWN on his OWN
What do you think?
My aim here is that when he calls, he wants you to make him feel better... so you pick up and you listen to him and he likley does feel better after the call..
But what I am wondering is what would happen if he felt like spewing at you and you didn't make him feel better, NOT that you make him feel worse... you just don't pick up the phone or tell him you are busy with his children right now...
I am wondering what the result might be...
Not sure on this one... I am worried you may be dragging this affair out longer by listenign to his rants on the phone... not sure though.. it MAY be helping you to sit and listen.. as long as you are distant and do NOT fight, argue, or offer any emotions to him to take with him... don't say I love yo uor anything, you just listen like a professional family therapist would do... sit back and objectively listen.. that may be helping... not sure
