We interrupt thos program.. I have been reading along and have felt all that you are relating here at some point or other. I have also suggested that I will not remarry again since i am also 0 for 2. Getting yourself out there is a whole different story. Eventually, something will click and you will feel it is time...that is what happened to me. But looking back, it is obvious that you have to give yourself a kick in the butt at times or we can talk about our broken heart till we are pushing up the proverbial daisies. Gardener, I am like you...this was my real first broken heart in 47 years....it hurt, it stung it kicked me in the sac.....but like I have repeated elsewhere, I will be damned if I let one person (regardless of who the real SHE was or is) affect me one more day....They should be the ones regretting their actions NOT US! Hang in there...it gets better.