I'm glad you are able to put your personal feelings aside for your children. I struggle with that on a daily basis as S5 looks exactly like X. It helps to have new experiences you can enjoy, definitely. How was dogsledding? I've never been, but it definitely looks exciting!
Being friends with the ex is dangerous territory. You have to handle it carefully if you want a reconciliation. You have to decide (and pep talk yourself) that you will not accept anything less than a long term relationship. For some, this means no ML until there's a commitment (then again, that's a female POV). For others this means refusing to listen to them talk about the OM or OW. Either way, I feel it's necessary that, until they are ready to talk about reconciliation to keep a civil R talking only about the kids and not allowing them into your private life. Be vague about your plans, but don't lie. If asked, state it simply. I definitely think this works (even for WAWs) because I've seen it in various states. The thing is, as DB put it, you have to aknowlege your responsibility to do the lion's share of work. It's all about the mystery/jealousy/chase advantage. You become more of a challenge and most people are responsive to an adventure.
I'll definitely be ready to be your cheerleader. It helps to watch everyone's small successes to keep my PMA up!
Way to go, whitney!
Me: 26 Ex: 27 Son: 5
Divorced: 3/2010 Each day is another opportunity to do it right.
