I agree. I hate to think that the person that SG has become is the person he always was. Rather, I would like to remember the good times we had.

I would hope that on our respective wedding days, although yes we did see all the good in that person, that the good is still there buried. Marriage is about going through the good AND the bad. I think all of us on this board knew there were going to be rough times, and were prepared to deal with it.

I know when I got married, I did not think that SG was perfect. I knew he was flawed, and was prepared to go through anything with him. Maybe it makes me a stronger person because I was willing to do that, and makes him a weaker person. But I don't think that necessarily means that the good in him is not there, nor do I think that the good in the rest of anyone's spouse is not there.

Now, obviously there are exceptions. The abusive spouse, etc. But in general, I think these are just exceptionally weak individuals who let the depression or "life" as it is get the best of them, and decided that the only way to deal with it was NOT to deal with it.

Im still standin better than I ever did looking like a true survivor feeling like a little kid Im still standin after all this time and Im picking up the pieces of my life without you on my mind..