How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

OK. So I wake up this morning and catch the W as she is rolling out of bed. So I say "You wanted to talk to me about something?" and she shook her head no. So I said "I must had misunderstood you last night then."

So then said "I want you to talk, you told me in the past that I don't let you talk. I have calmed down over the past couple days and I am willing to listen to you." Well she is referring to when I was pursuing her. So I said (which I probably should not had) "I express my feelings about the situation since this all began and she replied "So did I, and everything I said I mean."

Her and I laid in bed and I said to her "I appreciate the opportunity to talk to you but I need sometime to gather my thoughts before I do." I did not know how to go about this conversation. She said "OK." I stayed there for a few mins then I got up and she watched me as I did and she had a look on her face as in "where you going?" and she actually said those words.

How do I approach this conversation? She is leading me to believe she wants to hear what I have to say but either way it wont change the outcome because she already has her mind setup. If I tell her how I really feel then I am pursuing her. How can I get across that I want this marriage to work without pressuring her or pushing her future away? I would feel more comfortable if she just spoke to me and tell me her feelings but right now they seem to be "I'm leaving still."