Fast track to her divorcing me

[Cautious]

As far as the name change goes: Simply put, when emotions are raw, you don't always think logically. You don't think of the last name as "forever" and she may even regret it now. Neither of us can read her mind on that. Or maybe, like I said, in her mind the hurt feelings from the relationship between the two of you was so fresh it left her with only good memories of the previous R. When things start going wrong in our current R's, we look to the past to convince ourselves that we were once loved, otherwise we're doomed to feel worthless.

My statement is simply the love is a garden analogy. A good one, in my opinion. Love really is like a delicate flower. Overwatering it (being clingy) will kill it. Ignoring it (not spending enough time together) will kill it. Poor sun exposure (opposition from friends and family) will kill it. But when the seeds are there (seeing her act jealously or irrationally to spite you), and you nurture them (ending dates when you're having a good time, giving her only good memories of the present and no more bad memories to bank on), love can truly blossom.