Thanks for visiting my thread. Left a question there for you.
I want you to know that I am doing the same thing with my X. Being grey. I am kind and curteous to her but I will not call her unless she calls me first.
It is usually hard for me to see her or even talk to her because all those emotions come back. Especially when we are face to face. I have to show a PMA up front while holding back the urge to hold her and tell her how I feel and that I miss her.
To protect myself and to not put pressure on her I try to emotionally detach from her. Very hard to do but Im getting better. I do this by convincing myself that she is never coming back (which is most likely the case) and that we could both be happy in time by ourselves.
She usually only calls when she needs something but she does offer me dinner or lunch so I chalk it up to doing a friend a favor. And this way she can see my 180s.
Not familiar with alimony but his workplace would need something to start the deductions so they and your H should know. If he doesnt know then I hate to say it but it sounds like he didnt do what he was supposed to do or he is playing dumb. Hope Im wrong.
Forgive me if I am out of line with that.
Me:48 W:55 M:22 T:23 Bomb:19Nov09 S:15Jan10 D:11Feb10 EA:Confirmed on 20Apr10 Fast track to her divorcing me
