Separated, new baby, but still hopeful

[newmama]

For me to R, I expect for my WH to:
-get a job transfer (works with OW)

-go to IC and FT (thanks Allen!)

-LISTEN to me express all the damage and pain he caused (Yep, you gotta hear it) and REPEAT BACK what I said

-be extremely transparent w/ cell phones, bills, email, daily schedules and tell me when OW will contact him (because the OPs always resurface)

-tell me what the hell he was thinking and answer any question I have, agree to talk to me about the A every day and for as long as I need (NOT SAY "GET
OVER IT")and not get angry when I want to talk about it

-agree to the same boundaries about friends of the opposite sex (like don't have any unless they are part of a married couple and we see them together -avoid slippery slopes) I am confused about what to do with the male friends I have made here on DB though!

-tell me all of the things he cherishes in me- why does he want to be married to me?

-agree that both of us will express whenever we are upset with the other person and tell them what we need from them

-understand that I will be jealous, paranoid and cry a lot for awhile until we get through this and he needs to be patient and not mad when I do

On my part, I will promise to not act like I am better than him or that I could never have an affair (because I believe we are all vulnerable but need to have clear boundaries and choose to commit), and not to bring up the fact that he had the A every time we argue about something, and promise to open my heart to trust him again and forgive him as long as he does the above.