Please Advise!!!! I Could Use Some HELP

[newmama]

If I continue reaching out to him I think at this point I'm just making a bigger FOOL of myself.

Shasha, I see you request to only hear from DB vets but as a betrayed spouse, I will say honestly and gently:

you can not make a fool of yourself showing your H everything you are willing to do to prove your remorse.

ACTIONS. Who cares about the lease in your apartment? Sacrifice the money and move to another apartment. It seems to me that your H made it clear that he would want you to do that...that it would mean a lot to him.

I really want you to think about the actions you could take today (since your court date is soon) that would make the biggest impression.

Good job listening to what he has said to you about his perspective of the problems in the marriage. Now think of what you can do to work on improving those areas and showing him.

Now the apartment is a big thing- and have you been to IC? sorry I just started reading page 6.

Have you been able to repeat back to him the ways that you hear him tell you how you have hurt him? (oops- poor wording)

Ask him to let you know whatever he needs you to do to forgive you because you are 100% dedicated to earning his trust again, and want to have a new and improved marriage.

I don't know what the vets would think about what I stated but I hope it's not too far off base.