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[Gardener]

gima,

I saw that on your thread. The hard part is admitting to myself that THAT woman has been gone for a while. And, realizing she could be someone she really wasn't for many years.

So, the difficulty is in realizing that a large part of my M was really just a lie. That's being a bit over the top, but it's true.

I dunno, gima. Like most of us here, we didn't notice them slowly leaving until it was very obvious and/or too late.

As for it being a lie, we're each responsible for our own actions only. And we're not mind readers. Were your approaches, attitudes, behaviors in your marriage lies? I think not. You are too honest and genuine.

So, although I hear (the depths of) where you're coming from, I'd have to say, "No, gima, your marriage was not a lie."

Goodnight.