ILYBNILWY - Thoughts From This Walk Away Spouse

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Just for the record, my wife used this script on me, and she was not having an affair. No going out alone, no emails, she's not on facebook, she does not text, and I had records to her phone. I have said before I wished at the time she was having an affair, because it would make more sense to me if she had been.

We are over 1 year past that awful night now and doing great. I think he is just saying to be careful with blanket assumptions.

Burt

Burt, this I believe is the same sitch as mine.

But common sense will tell you that the stats really are around 90% if you take the time to actually read postings here.
And that is not counting the affairs that were never brought to light. I do not understand why Crushed can not see this.

And robx and others do NOT use it as a blanket statment. They give disclaimers. As much as they help people here it is a shame that they have to defend their voluntary service here.

If somebody cant see whats right in front of them then IMHO we cant help them. And there is no need to.

I feel bad for Crushed because it is obviouse he is in pain. I guess we can agree to disagree but the numbers here do not lie. And when going through the pain of a divorce I want to know what the numbers are honestly. People come here for advice and not for sugarcoating to make them feel better. They want to deal with the problem realistically because they are hurting and want to do the right thing.