From the blog of Susan J. Elliott, author of Getting Past Your Breakup:
"But above all else: forget this person you fell in love with. They are never coming back. The person who LEFT YOU is more in line with who this person REALLY is than the person you fell in love with." Susan J. Elliot
whoa--ain't that the truth!!
Wow, that is so very true. When we fall in love we see in that person what we want to see in them. We see the good because that is what we are falling in love with. We overlook the bad because that is not what we want to see. When the relationship falls apart, we finally see the bad. It was always there, we just didn't see it. And the WAS does the same, demonizing the LBS so they can justify walking away. They point out all the bad, and never acknowledge that there was any good.
"You can't stop the waves, but you can learn to surf." Jon Kabat-Zinn
