I think you are right, Freckle. So how did you handle it? Am I right in just letting it go and even being supportive do you think?
And rr - I did tell H I would be home tonight and tomorrow night ("his nights") because I wanted S to have "family time" and i"m worried about being away from him during rehearsals. H seemed surprised and said "oh good". Then I said I was excited to have a flight in his new plane with the whole family as soon as it's up and running (needs a couple more repairs). That's as far as I've gotten with asking for time together with S.
One good thing - babystep: H emailed me a photo of S today. He never does this, but I do it often, to keep him feeling included. This was the first weekend day I've been away from S for six months, so it could be just because H has never had a chance to send me a photo! But it felt good - like H reaching out to me for once instead of me always extending olive branches to him.
We still have not talked about the legal sep. H has mentioned he felt "stressed" that day, but went no further. Really feeling like I want to open up more about feelings, but also afraid to have "R talks" during our at home time. I've been trying to keep it upbeat and positive at home - make it nice to come here for H. I don't want to scare him away by opening up heavy emotions. However, I have a huge laundry list for tomorrow's MC discussions, so I"m not sure if I want to bring it up then either.
