OK, well, try to get a hold of OMW and let her know you just want to keep her in the loop and that you are monitoring things on your end for her and you.. tell her you are BOTH better off if you work together here.. which she SHOULD understand...
I didn't think there, was anything legal you could do, but I had to ask right? lol
If she keeps trying to contact him and he keeps pushing her away, she WILL eventually lose her facination with him... as long as ONE of the two is acting with some maturity and walking away you should be ok. It is going to take your wife likley three months or more to lose her intrest fully. How long have them been doing this do you know?
YOur wife is hangnign out with the wrong crowd, but we can't stop that... unles syou want to tell their husbands what you know lol
I think if you make your home a warn inviting environment and keep OM AWAY from her, she will gradually come around.
I don't trust other companies background checks.. I would run my own anyways.. I would run every check I coudl to find out what this guy's history is...
As far as what your wife told you and what OM told his wife its classic affair script...
WHen your wife or husband goes up to you and says
I love you but I am not in love with you We are over I am leaving
etc, this means they are cheating... or very likley cheating.. its almost 100% of the affair cases these statements are offered up, or something to those effects...
Don't let what she says get to you. If you are a cop, you likely had some training or course on dealing with drug addicts and alcohoics.. dealign with an affair is no different.
Not to mention compulsive gamblers... which is likley a closer comparison.
