How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

Wife still sleeping....

I cannot get a hold of OMW or OM to share or gather info.
Nothing I can do legally to keep the two from speaking. From what I hear, he seems to "get it" and she does not. She is still approaching him. I will have to speak with him again and let him know, no communication.

My other concern is my wife may be influenced by female co-workers who have/are committing infidelity. A week ago my W told me she will be going out to lunch with them (women) after work this up coming Tuesday.

As for a background check, in order to work where they do each person had to go through an extensive background check.

Don't recall if I had mentioned this but when listening to OMW she told me many of the things OM said to her and 99% of those things my W said to me, here are a few as an example:
- I am co-existing till I can leave
- Marriage is just a piece of paper
- ILYBNILY