:-) makes it seem sooo simple but gives hope that it really is that simple. I think that STEP 1 is the hardest for any person to admit to WILLINGLY doing damage to their family.
You will also see something similar to this in the 12 step program that addicts use...
I don't know what number it is, I don't even drink a drop of alcohol myself.. my parents were both alcoholics... But, I know there is a step where you have to apologize to the people you have hurt and explain in detail the harm you have done.. It may be step 4, not sure.