I agree with Allen. You need to start seeing a FT. Your ACTIONS will speak more to your wife than any words you can say. I am not talking about your "nice" actions either. You need to start doing things that will make you a better man and a better husband, ESPECIALLY if you haven't shown her affection and such in the past.
Me: 28 H: 32 1st marriage 4 both 1 1/2 year married 2gether for 9 1S: 6months 1stepson: 2yo