Also... there woudl be positive things going on like taking walks and such... that would be in the list as well... all those positive things you two like to do together..
You put these in the list... you try the EASIEST ones FIRST and gradualy work up to the harder ones...
SEX is often NOT done again right away, it may take several months before that's discussed again.
This is SBT, its focussed on diong ACTIONS that build trust and cooperation... NO psychoanalysis or academic gibberish.. concreete ideas and work to be done that are drafted by yourselves and polished up as therapy by the FT.
It does work in practice, MWD does this stuff all the time...