How to approach W about OM

[OfficerInNeed]

I just wanted to give an update on how the past 24hrs have played out to ensure I am taking the correct course of action and ensure I am doing what would give me the best possible chance to saving my marriage.

I spoke with OMW and OM last night. OMW said they had a great meeting and an extremely long phone call following and she is confident in they're R. I was unable to meet up with OM while on duty to once again get my point across and that was because he was with his wife. I did speak to OM, however, and was stern and to the point. I will beat this into him every day for as long as it takes.

Today my wife returned home from work and we did have a few brief conversations pertaining to finances ect. I DID NOT initiate any conversation. I DID respond to any questions she asked but made my responses brief. At one point we did both sit down on the same couch and began to watch TV together and a few times shared a laugh, she would make a comment and I would agree
for example W - "That was funny" or "that is weird" Me - "it was"

At one point I got up and walked away and left my phone behind. My wife grabbed my phone and as I walked back in the room she was going through my txt messages and calls. I told her I had nothing to hide and allowed her to browse whatever she wanted. We then continued to watch TV where she eventually feel to sleep and that is where we are at right now.

I was told by a friend that she did walk up to OM at work today and they had a 2 min conversation. My friend said he was not there for the lunch break today so he cannot say if anything else happened. Apparently the talk at the work place is the OMW and I confronting the two.

The highlight of the day:
- Wife thanked me for picking up groceries for her when I went shopping yesterday (she is a vegetarian so she requires special food types)
- Wife shared laughs with me

I am not sure how to read into her today.