I have to hand it to you, you sound very calm and your feet are planted firmly on the ground. God will watch over him and guide him, just as he is doing w/you.
They all have issue with controlling. They don't stop to think that there comes a time when they let things slide or begin doing things that take their minds off of the general day-to-day stuff, that we then have to pick up the slack in order to ensure that everything is completed and paid for along the way. In some ways, we become mothers and fathers to the spouses who tend to get swallowed up in crisis. It's rather sad when you stop to think about it. All they had to do is tell us that we are making them uncomfortable and that they will do their "chores" when they can. Unfortunately, none of us comes w/a crystal ball that we can pull out from time to time.
All I can do is say hang in there. Watch, listen and be patient.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
