It's pretty obvious you weren't. If you were raised with family values, you would have married the mother of your child, and you would have married her before she got pregnant.
You would legally be a family.
We were engaged before our daughter was born but even with that she dragged her heels and hid the ring under long sleeved shirts n stuff for a month or so before she let anyone else see it. If it were up to me we would have been married...but again it takes two.
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Jan 18
Originally Posted By: nsw1222
Originally Posted By: sandi2
Well you talked about everything but marriage. You've been with this woman for over seven years.....you are engaged to her but you never M her. She had you child.......I mean, why the heck did the two of you never make it legal?
Several people have asked me this since we broke up. While I cant speak for her, on my end, I slowed down on the desire for marriage because she was very bad with money and she had such a short fuse that I was afraid she would do what she ended up doing anyway, getitng mad and walking out on me, only with us being married things would be even more complicated.
January 23
Originally Posted By: nsw1222
I agree with you about my reasons for not wanting to get married being lame...and I now have to live with the possibility that I may never get to rectify the situation.
February 4
Originally Posted By: nsw1222
Originally Posted By: sandi2
You said yourself how badly you treated her before she left you. Didn't you say you hardly ever paid any attention to her? Didn't you say she couldn't take care of D3 as well as you could......b/c you were so particular about how things were done for your D? Didn't you say that you spent almost all your home time on the computer? Didn't you say that you hardly ever took her out anywhere?
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You didn't even want her until you found out somebody else wanted her! You know what? If she did come back home, she wouldn't be there a month until you would be treating her like cr@p again! Know how I know? B/c she wasn't up to your standards to marry her, that's why. Go back and read your answer to me when I asked you why you were with her for 7 1/2 years and yet you never M her.
Actually Sandi...I didnt push the issue of marriage.
