h4l: I must say it's a relief as well after so many months of anger and hurt. I myself can't stomach any more negativity!
Then go with it and don't frame it as doormat. Frame it as something you can keep positive about for X more months (in your own head). Don't tell him now, but set a deadline in your head for how much longer you can tolerate him keeping this amount of distance. Maybe just know you're going to allow yourself to leave if he doesn't move forward in a certain timeframe. That way you know that you DON'T have to live like this forever, even if he likes it. That's the bottom line. Reminding yourself of that might help keep PMA and the relief from all the R work drudgery. He's not really in charge of the timeline. You are.
