I too think I made more problems by following MLR too closely. My husband, who feels I'm not "crazy" about him and wants to feel "crazy" about someone else, says he no longer feels the same about me. When I started going a lot wo him, not contacting him, he said "see I was right. You aren't crazy about me and you're just moving right along".

So I've modified things and am still working at the right combination.

M--14 years
T--20 years, HS sweethearts
dday #1--2002 EA
dday #2--2005 bar sl*t
dday #3/4--Feb 2010 texting/cell/physical/who knows what
Shortly after found out he had been injecting steroids for 2 years