The conversation you are having regarding the divorce with your H sounds like convo I have about plans with my H.
It is as if they have no memory or ability to recall conversdations or how decissions are made. I have had the same conversation with H sometimes 3 or 4 times. Each time he speaks as if its the first. He has also told the children that any plans he has made I did it! Even blamed D19 for one of his cock ups that he had planned. Luckily it was me he told not my D so he couldn't blame her.......
There s so much dense fog in their brain they really don't function at all. This allows them to justify all sorts by rewriting history as you pointed out.
