Remember, him filing really doesn't hurt you in any way. As my C used to say: "You don't care when the process starts, only when it ends".
If anything, the filing helps you as it forces a discussion on topics like how the finances will be split, child support, etc. It tends to force the walk away back to reality a bit as they realize life post-D will have some pain associated with it.
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My thread, Carpe Diem #4 Orig Thread: Carpe Diem #1
You've been such a source of comfort for me. I thank you.
I see that the last you posted here was nearly a month ago. I'm so sorry that you're going through your sitch. I saw that someone wrote that his filing could be looked at as a way of helping you. Helping you to know how things (money, etc) will be handled. As you saw on my thread, I filed yesterday. One of my reasons was to get closer to having some sort of definite answer to something. Although I would love answers to other things, getting an answer as to how money, house, children, etc. will be handled is better than sitting here still not knowing ANYTHING. I can't control much right now so atleast having an answer in regards to anything helps right now.
If he has filed, look forward to that. Look forward to having a definite answer about something in your life. And as others have told me (and I believe to be true) even if he files, you're not divorced yet. Even if it goes through and you are divorced, life's not over. My neighbors, like your friends, are back together and happier than ever. They are D and do not plan on remarrying but are living together and are both estactic about their lives and relationship. They give mr hope.
Dedicated, I mostly post in my other forum in infedility called "How to expose the affair". Here is a link if you want to catch up on whats going with the D papers and other stuff.
Unfortunately, this will be my last post. I found out tonight in therapy that my H has found this site and has read all my posts, printed them out and brought them to therapy. This was supposed to be a therapy session to see if there were ways we could work on fixing our relationship, or so I thought. Instead, he used it to attack me the whole session and to inform me that he will be filing the D papers as soon as he can.
Everyone on here has been a great support system for me during this horrible time in my life. I poured my heart and soul out here and thank you all so much for being here for me. At my lowest times, when I felt no one understood what I was going through, you all did and I will be forever grateful. I love this forum, and felt like it was my own personal diary, but with added bonus of having others that were going through the same thing.
I am in a good place now, and I am ready to move on with my life. Even though I am not one of the success stories for saving my marriage. I feel like I tried everything I could and I will be able to look my children in the eye and say I tried EVERYTHING!!!!!!! They are the biggest losers in this whole mess. My kids deserve to have a whole family that is together and that has been and will be the hardest part.
Together 16 years Married 12 years Me 36 H 34 D9 & S6 Separated 12/3/09 Confirmed A 1/25/10 Exposed A 1/26/10 H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10
You don't have the cajones to confront the truth do you? You got caught with your hand in the cookie jar and is now looking to destroy your W and your kids.
I dare you to post your side of the story. If not, well I guess you can lift up your skirts and go running back into the hole you crawled up from.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.
