I will put this warning up now, because it could come at any time mb28

1. If your husband shows up one day and says he isn't contacting her anymore send him on his way
2. If your husband shows up one day and tells you he does not want a divorce and he wants to discuss your marriage, do NOT accept that, send him on his way
3. If your husband shows up and falls to his knees apologizing for being a horrible monster to both you and his children for months on end... send him on his way

MWD points this out in her book as well... DO NOT accept re-commitment when it is offered, this will cause a BACKLASH.. it MUST be gradual

The first time he shows signs of re-commiting, you do NOTHING

He has to want it BAD enough that he WILL DO the WORK... him just casually meandering about wanting to take you out with him and the kids is NOT ANYWHERE near what he should be doing yet... so the answer is the same as always

Gotta go, i am really busy...

If you can get to the same FT, SHE can tell him

"Your wife won't have anything to do with you until you have broken off ALL CONTACT with OW and are an OPEN BOOK to her... you hide ANYTHING from her and its GAME OVER"

The FT has to negotiate this deal, you are NOT in an emotional state where you can negotiate reconcilliation... keep turning him away...