ALJ,
You are getting great advice. Allen is great and try to do everything he suggests. Your sitch does seem harder than most because of the distance between you and your H. I am also fighting an A, and we are seperated. However, my H lives right down the street, and I see him almost everyday.

I wish you the best, hang in there.

Together 16 years
Married 12 years
Me 36
H 34
D9 & S6
Separated 12/3/09
Confirmed A 1/25/10
Exposed A 1/26/10
H hired L, but not filed yet 1/27/10