IMHO, Spouses that say ILYBINILWY, are confused about their feelings. More often than not, it is because they have feelings for 2 people. However, in my dating days, I have said this without another waiting in the wings. It stems from a lack of understanding re: Love.
"I tell my wife I'm not in love with her any longer. That's true. The reality is that if she began improving her behavior, and taking her position as wife and mother seriously, I might move back into the love zone."
Dbing is about changing yourself. If you change yourself, your spouse will have to change.
Gently, I'd like to add, in reading your posts on this thread, I feel bullied by a hostile person.
Read the threads yourself. Almost every betrayed partner has heard ILYBINILWY, at some point. Even you.
Most spouses suspecting an affair are advised to get solid proof before confronting. ILYBNILWY is a red flag, as are the other signs of infidelity.
I suspect you are hurt, angry and frustrated by your wife's behavior?
"If you strike me down, I will become more powerful than you can possibly imagine!" 1st thread
