Thanks, H4L! It feels better to have a clearer picture of what works and what doesn't. It also helped that my H and I had an honest conversation about his perception of my recent behavior compared to his perceived problems in our marriage.
I'm glad that YOU see what would have been a helpful 180 in your situation. I really thought that I was doing the right thing for several weeks, and like you, I only muddied communication and further frustrated an already frustrated H.
Thanks for your kind words. I look forward to hearing about your new methods!
