Personally I don't even think you are at the piecing stage. That's probably not what you want to hear but you don't seem willing to throw yourself into this completely at the moment. You seem, ( both of you probabaly), to have too many unanswered questions.
From looking at people on this section of the boards, I would say this is one of the hardest parts, and for it to work you need to be further along, and more committed, than your post suggests you are.
Saffie me 46 H 46 M in 1986 D20,D18,S16,D13 H's A 01/05 to 07/06 H recommitted to M 07/06 renewed vows 09/06 Going from strength to strength
