Stuck because I don't know for sure

[sleeplessinspoke]

Thanks, all. The WAS thing is certainly one of my theories as well: Wife seems to deal with me and interact with me up to a point. Sometimes I feel manage rather than loved these days particularly when it comes to intamacy. I call it the auto-pilot wife. She does not ask about my day, she does not say I love you....rather use the phone sign off that is an inside joke about how our little kids talk on the phone...."LUVUBYE".....she often doesn't look at me when we kiss, eyes open and looking away. She often looks pensive as if she is a million miles away and sometimes comes home somewhat revved up but flighty if that makes sense. One thing I've noticed is that it is always off to the bathroom sometimes a few times when she get's home from work...she does have a long drive home in traffic though.

Now I have only noticed these things since I started looking. None of these are drastic differences from the woman I married and that's what really freezes me.