About the unexpected tears.. your subliminal mind is your buddy. Scientists have found that emotional tears remove toxins and ease stress. So good job!
About your broker.. you're a guy, guys have a different way of handling confrontation. Me.. I'd step back and identify what was so jarring. Being attacked by the former spouse, a sense of dismissal by the broker, dissemination of facts. Cause someone got their info wrong.. and based on your former spouse's track record (emailing your lawyer, etc) it's probably her.
Get out of the emotional stew. Look at the facts. Know what the issue is. Ask the broker if he knows why you received a hysterical call from your former spouse. He'll answer. You'll nod your head. Set your boundaries for what is a good working relationship with him. Both of you agree on the parameters. If he's going to call the former spouse, he has to alert you.
And your broker is your friend; he's helping sell your house.
Remember, when an overblown emotional upset occurs, it's usually a projection of another pain. It's easier to get mad at the broker (and feel like you have some control) than at your former spouse.
