She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

You are overanylizing things like I was and still do. Unfortunately the situation is what it is, and all we can do right now is be respectful of how their feeling. We may not understand, but the more we try to get them to open up the more we will push them away. I found that when I respected my wifes desire for space (only calling once a week), she then seemed to be a little more cooperative.

This has taken me months to realize, and I'm still no where near where I need to be. It will become somewhat clearer and easier to deal with once we're reunited. This isn't going to be repaired with magic, it's going to take time, understanding and patience.

It's definitaley difficult for us to deal with this because it happened while I was away, and while you were alone. We will never understand why or how thay came about there decision and the timing.

I look back on things and wish I could change certain events and behaviors, but I can't. All we can control is ourselves and the present. Just work to make yourself a better person for you. I'm still struggling with the changes being only for me. It takes lots of time and effort, but you need to want to change for you. The result of the change can be a repaired marriage, but the reason. However, this is the 2 X 4 that smacked me in the face and caused the reasoning for change. It's very unfortunate, but I like who I am today allot more than the guy I was 6 months ago.