She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[Surviving03]

yes... you do sound like you are in a little bit better position than I am in for the fact that she is at least speaking to you. I dont know what happened to my H in that regard... he was talking to me very regularly... but I think he felt bombarded, and he knows he HAS to deal with it when he gets back so he is just keeping to himself and avoiding the drama right now. which sucks for me... but what can i do.

I do need to get with the program as far as understanding that I need to make changes for myself, I know a few of the things that werent working for him and I fully accept and acknowledge that they require change. But I still have the mindset that I am trying to change for him and for our marriage. I feel sometimes like why should I have to go thru so much pain and so much one sided effort just to stay married to him?? But I WANT nothing more than to be married to him and work on this. I know that marriage is work and its not something to just walk away from when things are not happy.... but how do you work with that if your spouse doesnt seem to want to try? My H did say he would go to counseling in the last email he wrote me.....but judging by his behavior since then, I kinda dont see that happening.

I am going to do my best to just be understanding of what he is feeling, and try to work on myself in the meantime.... its weird for us though, because we are currently stationed on an overseas base already, so he could have me sent back to the States when gets home, or he could stay at the house, or he could move into the dorms (which he has mentioned)

I just pray that the outcome of all this is that we have a healthier, happier, and stronger marriage because of this and our efforts made all the difference in the world.....