Sounds like you are justifying why you are using the phrase out of anger which I don't know why. What you tell your W and your reasoning is up to you. You almost sound guilty using the phrase.
And let's face it, your W used it when she had her A. And honestly I don't think she loved you so it's a moot point. Don't mean to sound harsh, but if she did, she wouldn't have treated you the way she has and disrespected you so much.
My heart goes out to you. How about shifting that anger back onto your W where it belongs.
M-43 W-40 2D - 9 and 5
Emotion, yet peace. Ignorance, yet knowledge. Passion, yet serenity. Chaos, yet harmony. Death, yet a new life.