She Say's She Want's Out Of The Marriage

[tbart01]

meghunny it's definately difficult being the LBS while I'm not even there to face it. Luckily my wife and I still talk to one another, just not that often.

I used to think that me returning homw would give some magic spark that would change things. However, as things progress I see that it may not occur. Her attitude has gone from anger and meaness to neautrality.

I tried to follow the advice of taking the house back, and it backfired on me. It sent her into such a downward spiral. It was after I backed off and agreed to our previous plan that her attitude began to change.

Even from a distance I had to let her go and give her space. I told her I wouldn't take the house over, and I would only call her once a week like she had asked. When I started to give her this space she started calling me, and even became willing to talk to me when I would call to speak to my kids.

She also started to speak about the future, she started IC, she even told me she stillloved me, but didn't want me to live in the house withher because she was afraid I'd talk her into things being the way they were. The truth is I don't want things to be the way they were, that's unacceptable even to me. I didn't realize this fact until my stch.

She even mentioned she didn't know what would happen once i got ome, that could be bad or good. The reality is, I don't know how she's going to accept my return nor do you know how your H is going to accept his return. You and I are both in unknown territorry. We just need to be patient and understanding of how they feel once they return. All we can do is wonder and speculate how things will be, and it's a very difficult spot to be in.

I've taken this time to work on the things I know I need to work on, and that's what you need to do as well. We can only improve ourselves, because unfortunatley we can't change them or the way they feel. This is something I've had to learn throughout this process.

Repairing my marriage is going to be a long hard journey, but first we need to fix ourselves. The marriage will come secnd and naturally. That doesn't mean it will be repaired, but hopefully we will have tried all that can possibly tried.